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Exploring Your Own Pleasure: Understanding Your Body

Let’s be honest, most of us didn’t grow up being taught that our pleasure mattered. We weren’t shown how to listen to our bodies, how to ask for what we needed, or even how to explore what actually feels good to us.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, your wants and desires or unsure where to begin…. Or like pleasure is something that only happens in theory (or in someone else’s life), you’re not alone.

This isn’t about being “more sexual.” It’s about coming home to yourself. Relearning your body. Finding joy, ease, and even power in the simplest sensations. For you when and how you choose. Intimacy starts with self and when you are able to connect with yourself, your body and your desires there is a deep pleasure in that. 

Midlife is a mixed bag. We are often navigating changing hormones, shifting identity, and realising that the way we relate to pleasure now looks and feels different — and that’s okay.

Why Pleasure Matters

Pleasure isn’t just about sex — it’s about connection. To your senses, to your body, to your breath, to the present moment.

When you give yourself permission to experience more pleasure (in any form), you:

• Reduce stress and tension

• Regulate your nervous system

• Build a deeper relationship with your body

• Feel more grounded, calm, and in tune

Pleasure is a practice. And it’s yours to define and take whenever and however you choose. 

Simple Ways to Start Exploring

This doesn’t need to be complicated or curated. You don’t need the “perfect” setting or a specific thing you have to have, do or try. You just need a little curiosity and a few moments of space. Carving out time and making it a priority so you can connect.

1. Start Slow

Create a moment in your day - even just five minutes to drop in. Turn off the noise. Put a hand on your body. Breathe. Ask: What feels good right now? 

2. Touch Without a Goal

This is a big one. Touch yourself just to feel - not to perform or “achieve” anything. Run your hands over your arms, your chest, your belly. See what sensations feel nice, what areas you haven’t paid attention to in a while. It can feel strange and almost awkward to touch yourself like this. Deliberate and with intent but it is an incredible way to connect with your body and feel your senses.

3. Notice What Lights You Up

Maybe it’s certain fabrics, warm water, music, movement, laughter, a scent. Pleasure lives in the details. Start noticing the small things that bring you joy or aliveness. That counts, too. Sensuality is about how we experience life and the world around us. How are you connecting to your senses?

4. Be Honest With Yourself

There’s no “right” way to do this. You might not feel much at first. You might feel awkward or unsure. That’s all part of it. Let this be a process of learning and not fixing or more on your to do list. It is about taking the time to be in the moment with your body. Connecting to your senses, being honest with yourself and speaking up (even if it is just to yourself) about what you like, don’t like or want to try.

Reconnecting Takes Time… and That’s Okay

You don’t have to have all the answers.
You don’t have to feel turned on all the time.
You just have to start listening.

Exploring your own pleasure is about building trust with your body again. About shifting the focus from doing to feeling. From performing to connecting.

And the more you practice, the more natural it becomes.

If this is a season where you’re learning how to care for and understand your body in new ways - you are exactly where you need to be. You’re right on time and you are allowed to take it all in and the way you choose. No rules, no obligations and for no one else. 

And if you want more tools, support, or simple practices to help you reconnect with pleasure and embodiment, stay close — we’ve got more coming your way.